Love, Darbie

a life/style blog of a southern girl on the west coast.



July 2014



Showing Love Where It’s Due

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photo by Shandi-Lee Cox

“If you admire somebody, you should go ahead and tell them.
People never get the flowers while they can still smell them.” – Ye

This particular post has been a long time coming and now more than ever, I feel like it’s the right time to write it. I’m not one to celebrate ‘blogiversaries’ — as a matter of fact, I never have. But, this week (actually tomorrow), Love Darbie will have existed for three years. Three crazy, eventful, life-changing years. I wrote my first post on this blog as a naive seventeen year old about to embark on a college adventure. I started this corner of the world wide web to document that journey and everything it may bring. At that time, my posts revolved around fears of going on to college, excitements about dorm life, and other things that just seem so irrelevant now. At that time, I never expected that I would live in Arizona, Washington, and California. That I would travel the nation and meet so many amazing people. That I would experience love and heartbreak. That I would get to know Jesus in a way that I never have before. That I would begin to chase my dreams so fearlessly. That I would strive to emulate my mother’s strength. That I would lose and then find myself along the way. I never expected that this blog would open the doors to so many friends and supporters. So, this post is for you all. The people that I have admired and cherished these past few years. The couple of you that I have met and experienced life with. Those of you that I feel like I know so freaking well, yet I’ve never met. This is for the riders, those that have watched me grow over the years.

This is for my love Nneji, the fearless woman whose spontaneity I so greatly admire. The one who left everything in Columbus, OH to live out her dream in California and then chased that dream all the way to Germany. I’ll forever cherish our times in San Francisco and Oakland, our conversations, our laughs, and everything in between.


This is for Marie (pictured right), I don’t even know where to start. Hardworking, diligent, and just utterly amazing doesn’t even begin to describe you. I’ve never bonded with someone so quickly over some bomb Thai food and Philz Coffee. I can only aspire to be as fabulous as you are. You are really that big sis looking out and I will forever and ever ride for you.

This is for Ofunne (pictured left), because your style is so effortless and your genuine spirit, simply captivating. I’m wishing you all the best in New York and I can’t wait to see where life takes you.

This is for Asia and Kimberly — let’s throw it back to Femmes with Benefits real quick, because I admire you two oh so much. Thanks for all your support! And Kim, everything you touch turns to gold, I don’t see that kind of excellence very often.

This is for Yetti, for being herself and in a really weird way inspiring me to constantly improve myself. I see so many similarities between us so keep doing you Yetti because it doesn’t go unacknowledged.

This is for Jenny, for always supporting even before this particular blog existed.

This is for Liane, for being a bauce [see what I did there ;)]— your drive inspires me, girl.

This is for Carla, Chymere, Kat, Valla, Nina, and Olakunmi for doing life with me these past few years, some of you since 2011, I appreciate you more than words can describe.

And for everyone else, I genuinely appreciate you! For reading my ramblings and growing with me throughout the years. Thank you to those who have recently featured my blog, namely: Good Lookn Out, My Creative Connection, and This Brown Queen - you all keep the smile on my face!

In the spirit of support, vote for Nneji and her brand Akachi as she continues to impact the African diaspora. Click the photo and you can vote up to three times a day!

Do School - Akac

I don’t know where life will lead but I can’t wait for three more years and the friendships that come along with them.



July 2014



A Spontaneous Getaway to the Midwest

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At times, even the best of us long for a getaway; a chance to clear our minds and an opportunity to experience something new. That is exactly what dawned on me earlier last week: I really needed to leave Seattle, even if just for the weekend. I’m a rather spontaneous person. I treasure unplanned moments dearly and act on impulse when my heart leads me to do so. So on Sunday evening, after a phone call or two to one of my favorite people, Mayowa, I was all set to visit her and explore Minneapolis, Minnesota. By lunch time on Friday, I was at the Seattle Tacoma International Airport not anticipating that this weekend would be exactly what I needed — and more. A break, fresh air, sisterhood, conversations until 6am, and good laughs. Not to mention excellent food. It is such blessing to have friends that love God, love life, believe in you, and that you can depend on to cheer you up, even if it means flying across the country.

Here are some photos from our weekend and if you’re ever in Minneapolis and live for brunch like myself, I highly recommend visiting The Lowry & The Union Rooftop.


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July 2014



Bomb Beauty Secret: King of Skin by LUSH

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King of Skin Body Butter by LUSH

My ladies (and fellas) with dry skin, this post is for you! I’m plagued with the dry skin curse and I especially dislike that fresh out of the shower dryness. I love LUSH’s products because they’re all natural and they pretty much have a product for everything you could think of (but really though). I stopped by my local store and ended up leaving with this gem, their King of Skin Body Butter. This product is packed full of yummy natural ingredients, namely: cocoa butter, bananas, shea butter, avocados, coconut butter, jojoba oil, almond oil, lavender oil, etc. 


Right after my shower, I turn the faucet off and rub the bar all over my skin, do a quick rinse or towel dry, and that’s it! It leaves my skin feeling very moisturized and dewy.

You might like to know:

  • I love King of Skin for night-time showers so I can crawl in bed with my skin feeling like butter.
  • I still follow this up with lotion if I use in the morning but this is not necessary; I just have dry skin.
  • It is very moisturizing and can appear greasy when you first get out the shower; your skin will soak it up.
  • Don’t leave this in the shower, it’s a natural butter that will melt away with water!
  • I keep it in one of LUSH’s Body Butter Tins to preserve and store it.
  • I hate how quickly this bar is used up. It doesn’t last very long so I no longer use it daily.

Disclaimer: This is not a sponsored post or all that jazz, I just love this product. Let me know if you’ve tried it! Also, recommend your favorite LUSH products and feed my obsession!