I’ve Been ‘Adulting’ for a Year…


Currently Reading / The Wait by Meagan Good and DeVon Franklin (Amazon), Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill (Amazon)
Currently Listening / Rise Up – Andra Day (Spotify)
Currently Grateful For / Mentorship
Currently Loving / Seattle in the Summer, there’s nothing like it

A year ago, I wrote a post on adulting. I was getting ready to move cross country from Austin to Seattle, live by myself for the first time, and start the career I had worked so hard for years to craft. I was 21, an ambitious college graduate, but I had many doubts about whether I could actually be on top of it all as an adult. I try to be transparent in this space because the internet has the toxic quality of making people look like their life consists of solely highlights. The past year has come with so many ups and downs, from doubting my ability to achieve my goals, questioning whether my job was right for me, learning how to stay in touch with friends, struggling to figure out a budget, forgetting a bill or two, to joining a community of people who will change the world, learning how to use my voice, and hitting milestones I never imagined. In a year I’ve failed, succeeded, then failed again, lost all motivation, found it, found peace, found stress, found friendship, found myself.


Blessings that the past year of adulting brought:

I started reading regularly

I’ve always been an avid reader, but found myself reading less during my four years of undergrad. In October, I made a goal to read a book a week for a year (we’ll talk about how that went in a few months). Getting back into regular reading has made me 1000x more knowledgable than I was a couple of months ago. I’ve read about everything from environmental policy to philosophy to growth hacking. I should mention that I do not have cable or watch tv/movies much, making it a little bit easier to find time to read, but I still have to be very intentional about fitting it in my schedule. Note: I’m making it a point to share what book(s) I’m currently reading at the beginning of every blog post.

I set stretch financial goals – and met them

Around the beginning of the year, I had been working full time for three months and had yet to truly analyze my finances. I had no financial plan, none. So, I opened a Morgan Stanley investment account, increased my 401k contribution, and I wrote down a number that I’d like to have saved by May (giving me about 4 months), then I calculated what it would take for me to achieve it. It was borderline impossible, but I really wanted to see that number happen. I don’t go shopping often but still made it a goal to not buy any clothes for a month, that ended up becoming 4 months. I hit my savings goal on April 20 and immediately started working toward my next financial goals. I recently read an article from Fast Company that said 62% of Americans have less than $1000 saved. It’s been a pull on my heart to do what I can to help whoever reads my blog get set up for a strong financial future (more to come soon). Knowledge is power, especially in America and financial literacy can change lives and communities.

I started to believe in myself and create the opportunities I wanted

I went through this phase for a few months where I didn’t feel like I was accomplishing much. Not sure if I was burned out but I had lost my groove and I wasn’t sure when/how I would get it back. One day, I came home from work with Post-Its and started writing a bunch of affirmations on them and placing them around my apartment. I made a promise to myself that I would “prove to myself that I could get it done” — whatever “it” was. In retrospect, I probably needed that break to figure out where I was and where I wanted to be. Once I started to believe that I could have anything I want in life, like truly believe this, my habits and actions started to reflect this. Instead of waiting on opportunities to come my way, I started knocking on doors I wanted to open.

I learned how to unlearn

It’s one thing trying to build a habit, it’s another trying to break one. From trivial things like not drinking enough water to going to sleep without taking my makeup off (can’t even fathom that I used to do this), I had a ton of habits that I worked to break this year.

Success for most people requires unlearning as much as learning – Orrin Woodward

I found a support system, found great mentors, and gave back

Moving to a new city can be a daunting experience, one of the hardest parts being finding friends and building a community from scratch. I’m unbelievably grateful for the community family I’ve found in Seattle, who are some of the most welcoming and giving people I’ve met. And then there are my mentors, who probably believe in me more than I believe in me. The past few years of my life have been especially defined by mentorship and one of the greatest blessings in my life recently has been the opportunity to be that for others. To my mentees – in real life and online, I love y’all.

I leaned on God

One day, I’ll tell all my testimonies and they’ll be as unbelievable to you as they still are to me. My relationship with God has become my single most important priority, because I’ve finally realized that no one has my back like He has my back, especially in the past year. Honestly, I work decently hard, but not that hard. Grace has taken me so much further than my grind ever could.

“Him, who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think” – Eph. 3:20

There are still areas that need work, for instance… I should probably go to the dentist soon, I need better accountability around consistency, and I need to stop laying in bed for a whole hour after I wake up. But, I’m figuring it out and loving how much I’ve grown.

IMG_3855 copyOutfit details // Dress – Missguided US, Shoes – Jeffrey Campbell, Hat – Forever 21