We are a few hours from a west coast New Year, and I couldn’t embark on this year without reflecting on the past one. I remember on November 22, 2016, I was frustrated and praying something along the lines of “where’s mine?” or “God, make this happen” and in an almost surreal moment, I heard so clearly,
“If you knew what I had in store for you, you’d stop rushing the process”.
This year, I’ve made it a habit to make note of moments like this and I’ve clung to this particular statement over the past few weeks. When I look back at the past 365 days, I had a phenomenal year. I traveled, I got my first promotion, I did work that fulfilled me, I filed a couple of patents, I created for myself, I made many amazing and genuine friendships, I hosted events for the community, events for women by women, I started a creative agency and worked with clients that trusted me (something I don’t take for granted), I gave a couple of talks and they actually rocked, I went home to Lagos, I learned how to build Android apps, I did a podcast or two, I worked with people I admire and with brands I love, and most importantly, I made more unforgettable memories than I can count.
Grateful doesn’t describe how I feel about this past year. Of course, there were many lows. I failed a ton and wrote about it. And throughout the year, there were still things that I desired that weren’t true in my life yet or goals that I was still far from reaching. See, I’m so blessed to know and support so many close friends that are excelling in their craft, friends that are founding startups worth millions, friends that are truly living out their purpose. I couldn’t ask for a better network that pushes me to aspire to greater heights. Heights that I often times find myself rushing towards.
I remember realizing that one of my favorite songs from Solange’s recent project was written 8 years ago. It took 8 years before she released what would become her greatest track to the world. I’ve thought about this every single day since.
So as I look toward 2017, my prayers for myself (and you) are as follows:
- That we practice patience and humility: in love, in work, and in life.
- That we find our lanes and walk in our purpose.
- That we create without fear.
- That we see opportunity instead of obligation in every situation.
- That we remember that the power to live a beautiful life, is completely ours.
And of course, every year I share a quote by Neil Gaiman that remains my wish for you.
I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes.
Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re Doing Something.
So that’s my wish for you, and all of us, and my wish for myself. Make New Mistakes. Make glorious, amazing mistakes. Make mistakes nobody’s ever made before. Don’t freeze, don’t stop, don’t worry that it isn’t good enough, or it isn’t perfect, whatever it is: art, or love, or work or family or life.
Whatever it is you’re scared of doing, Do it.
Make your mistakes, next year and forever.
I’ll be spending my New Year’s Eve with a ton of reflection, worship, and celebrating with friends I love. I hope that you bring in this year with joy and filled with peace and direction.
Cheers to 2017!
Photo of me taken by the great Austin Willis.